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  • 4 years ago

    In coming from a "broken home", you could postulate that I would be against the idea of marriage. However, while I do harbor some reservations towards settling down with one woman, loving her and treating her and our kids well for our entire lifetime, I do believe that marriage is the best way to go. It has been tried and true for the entire span of mankind, and any and all issues are involved have the ability to be resolved and worked through. Maybe marriage isn't the issue and we are? Maybe we need to rethink our sexual endeavours and the way we look at women (or opposite). Too often we throw our issues on someone or something else, and blame the easiest scapegoat that we can find (which is a whole other debate in it of itself).

    • 4 years ago

      I'd love to debate polyamory as the most sustainable model for intimate human relationships... If anyone's interested, reply here and let me know!

      • 4 years ago

        The fact that most marriages fail points to the fact that it's a failed institution. That does not mean that marriage is inherently bad for all couples and will always fail.

        The "track" of a traditional romantic relationship is the problem. Meet, date, marry, have children, when they move out, try to rekindle a love life that has been largely dormant for two decades, retire... die.

        Frankly, most people do not know themselves or each other enough to get on that train together, but because of social pressure, they do anyway. At some point, more than 50% of them go off the rails, because they weren't prepared for that kind of a commitment.

        The issue is that people are taught, alongside the 'life goals' of going to college, getting a job, etc., that marriage and having a family are just things you're supposed to do along the way.

        Nonsense. If that's what you want to do, after strongly considering it, fine, do it and I wish you all the best. But to accept as destiny or obligation a lifelong commitment of monogamy, potential child-rearing, joint finances, and all of the teamwork that goes along with it?

        No wonder the divorce rate is what it is.