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  • a year ago

    "Internalized misogyny"... sounds like a Trump-syndrome :p

    • a year ago

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      • a year ago

        "All jeans are pants, all pants are jeans..." bumper sticker material ;)

        • a year ago

          I identify as a feminist but that is not to say that I agree with the way other feminists choose to express their beliefs. The actions of those people, however, should not represent the movement as a whole. The core of feminism lies in an inclusive, compassionate approach to solving systematic, institutional problems.

          Those who think that the movement is exclusive, counterproductive, and hateful misunderstand its core values.

          • a year ago

            If rapists get little or no consequences (esp. if they're white), then how do we not have a rape culture?

            • a year ago

              Feminists have been taking it too far. So glad you brought up "rape culture" ericguillermoguzman. Under the title rape culture, EVERYTHING is offensive to women and men are so scared of being blamed and accused of anything and everything. Maybe if the approach was more about education rather than blaming men who are products of a broken system and have been conditioned since birth to think a certain way.

              Yea, there may be a problem, but typical feminist way of approaching it is counterproductive

              • a year ago

                Rape culture is just about showing the ways in which society blames victims of sexual assault and normalizes male sexual violence. If you're referring to anything else it's not Rape Culture.

                You seem upset because women are... mad? Angry? Not talking about in the tone you feel comfortable with? I mean, can't you sort of understand where women are coming from?

                When a woman or young girl is raped and then the entire town says, "Well, you're a slut, what did you expect?" or when a judge asks a woman, "Why didn't you keep your legs shut?" Why shouldn't we be outraged? The LACK of outrage is what's weird.

                People get really angry about Clinton's email scandal and demand she goes to jail, but a guy raped a passed out girl behind a dumpster and he gets 3 months?

                It's a matter of scale. It's a horrendous, violating act that leaves a person scarred for life, but somehow people are focused on whether a sentence will "ruin the boy's career". Like the two things are somehow on the same level.

                Imagine being forced down and penetrated anally, then when the perpetrator goes to court the judge looks at you and says, "Well... why didn't you clench your butt cheeks harder?" and he breezes through the system on a light charge. You'd be PISSED. Because of course you would- anyone would be pissed. That is what a lot of women are experiencing.

                So you're saying we shouldn't BLAME a rapist because they're the products of a broken system? That's evidence of being raised in a culture that doesn't take rape seriously. Not really. We want to THINK we do, but we don't.

              • a year ago

                Another aspect of rape culture is this idea of the perfect victim. I've seen it happen all too often where if a victim is able to function normally in society after an assault, then they must've been lying. Because apparently if a woman is able to leave the house instead of just curling up in the corner and crying all the time, then they probably weren't raped. God forbid a victim continue to live her life. Remember that girl in Ohio who was seen attending a concert after her rapist had gone to trial? People saw that footage on CNN and lost their damn minds. It was so gross.

                And then there's the celebrity aspect of rape culture as well. For your own sake, never Google the phrase "even if he did rape those women..." The 'he' being Bill Cosby. *shudder* I saw that documentary The Hunting Ground not too long ago, and it is just heartbreaking the lengths people will go to to defend accused rapists if the rapist is a popular athlete. For that matter, just look at how athletes who have raped are seen in a better light than Colin Kaepernick is for not standing up during the national anthem.

            • a year ago

              Rape culture is about establishing through dominance that men have more power over women, and women have to go through life afraid of men and what they can do.

              • a year ago

                In addition, the normalization or rape in terms of prison rape jokes, rape being used for cheap drama in fiction (and all too often the focus of the story is on someone the victim knows, usually a man, than the victim themsevles), people using the term rape as synonyms for winning decisively in a multiplayer video game, etc. ad nauseum.

              • a year ago

                So then you should arm women and give them the opportunity to become strong enough to defend themselves, right? Even the playing field by empowerment, right?

              • a year ago

                Introducing guns into it doesn't help. Stats show that women who own guns are more likely to be killed with their gun than they are to kill someone else.

                Also, saying "you should've had a gun" is itself a form of victim blaming. No, we can't stop all rapes, but we can stop the rapes that too many men don't think count as rape. Remember, marital rape used to be legal. Part of rape culture is this idea men have that things that aren't explicit consent count as consent; drinking, wearing red, going out on a date, having slept with you once previously, etc.

                Let me put it this way; imagine you invite me to your home once. I decided I want to go there again, but you don't let me in, so I kick the door down. How pissed would you be if a judge let me get away with B&E because you had let me in that one time previously? Now consider how many rapists judges have let go for reasons just like that.

            • a year ago

              I do think feminism is not what it used to be for the most part, but that's a good thing IMO. Though sadly TERFs, SWERFs, Carcerals, and White Lady Feminists are still an issue that does need to be constantly pushed back against (I say it that way because I doubt it'll ever go away).

              Clarification of terms time; When I say White Lady Feminism (a.k.a. White Feminism(TM)) I am referring to feminists who operate under the trickle down theory of gender issues. White Lady Feminists operate under the apparent assumption that we only need to achieve gender equity for white, cis, usually heterosexual but not always, middle to upper-class women and everything else will fall into place and all those other types of women just need to sit down and shut up because the White Ladies know what's best for them. At best this type of feminism is dismissive of and at worst hostile to the concerns of women of color, transwomen, lesbians, poor women, sex workers or anyone who falls into more than one of those categories.

              White Lady Feminists are the main reason a lot of prominent feminists of color (Black feminists in particular) won't use the word Feminist to describe themselves, because the word has become tainted in their eyes, and I can't blame them.

              As for why I use White Lady Feminism instead of White Feminism(TM), well, that's wholly personal. I like the first term better because it sounds more condescending, which works for me because in my experience White Lady Feminists tend to be very condescending themselves. Just listen to the way they chide Beyonce but praise Madonna for being openly sexual in their music, just for one example. Or for having panels about sex work at feminist conventions but not inviting ANY sex workers at all (or only sex workers whose stories fit a pre-determined narrative). Or for lavishly praising film & TV for telling transgender stories while failing to note that they keep casting cis actors for those roles.

              Believe it or not, this is actually a pro-feminist post. *LOL* As for TERFs and SWERFs I imagine most people know what those terms mean by now. And Carcerals are, well, that's another bag of worms I won't get into here, except to say that at least in terms of sheer numbers they're far less prevalent than the other types. Far as I know, anyway.

              • a year ago

                So many complaints about feminism are about the tone in which women speak, so it is hard to say anything without it being "wrong."

                • a year ago

                  @Magdalen, you can post a video comment with whatever you wanted to say here in the comments section! try the camera icon

                  • a year ago

                    You can submit your closing statement here in the comment section - camera icon!! give it a shot guys :)

                    • a year ago